Did you just graduate college and realize that you are having a hard time getting an interview for your dream job or any job for that matter? Are you a junior in college and having a mental breakdown because your major is either getting you down or not going to be that helpful getting a job? Do just feel lost and like you have no idea what to do, how to get to your dreams, or just survive the transition into being a fully responsible adult and find yourself asking what am I doing with my life more often than not? Yeah join the club.
Ok, a little back story for you. Hi I’m Allie, the writer and creator of this blog. I was born and raised in the Bay Area and have recently moved back after graduating from the University of Nevada, Reno with a bachelors of science in community health science with a specialization in public health. Ever since I was young, it was my dream job to be doing something creative. It went from 2D animator for Disney, interior designer, story board artist for Pixar, to graphic designer, to now anything creative at all. I always loved coloring; I love pairing colors together. So my love for that turned into a love for design. Sadly my college didn’t have graphic design as a major and that is how I found the field of public health.
I feel lost from time to time, more often than I would like. It’s hard today to not compare yourselves to one another especially because of social media. Sometimes I find myself feeling that being a responsible adult and just being able to survive life will get in the way of everything I want to accomplish. After feeling this way, I remind myself that I’m not alone. I’m often the voice of reason for my friends, as I’ve been told, and many have come to me with these exact worries.
We are not alone! No one tells you how hard it truly is when transitioning into adulthood. First and foremost you need money and most likely your first job won’t be your only job or the field you stay in. If they happen to be, then I guess you are one of the select few. The rest of us are still figuring it out. I know once you turn 21 it doesn’t seem like we are still young, but come on that’s not true. People are different and they have different experiences. As a result, we grow and learn at different paces. I’m realizing no matter what, any experience is valuable; not everyone has been able to experience the same things you have. Own it! Use this unique experience even if you feel like it won’t be helpful. I think that the fact that everyone has a unique journey and experience is the most important thing to keep in mind, especially with comparing yourself to someone else. Sometimes we find ourselves doing this destructive act of comparison with things that aren’t even relevant. Why why WHY do we do this? I am totally guilty of this as well and my boyfriend always says “Allie, you know why you shouldn’t do that.“ With this in mind, everyone is going to find themselves in different places at different times. Someone might have it figured out before you do and that is ok. Unfortunately, I have realized feeling lost in your 20s is a part of life. You need to learn from the curve balls life throws at you and adapt to the transition of adulthood first before you can accomplish you dreams but also you have to find out what exactly those dreams are and make a plan of action. It’s one giant journey that feels like Alice In Wonderland.
If you don’t have patience (like me) then this is going to be rather difficult. I’ve been able to get a better grip on this by having my blog as a hobby. I really love projects; I’ve always loved arts and crafts. So by being able to work and improve my blog a little bit each day in my free time, has helped me learn more about myself and my skills but also gives me something fun to do while I am making this transition. During this time I had an idea: don’t dwell on stressing out about the fact you have no idea what you are doing with your life and, if anything, it may lead you to where you eventually want to end up.
Even though you feel lost and you aren’t sure what you are doing with your life, remember this: you are doing something. You are just moving slower than you expected. Maybe while you figure things out you can take up a hobby, find more interests, improve your skills, or even better, make a game plan to find a way for your dreams to come true. You can do it people, we can survive this period of finding ourselves in our 20s. Own it, enjoy the the journey, and know that it is ok that you feel lost right now because you aren’t the only one.